As I read the blog I began to reflect on all the mistakes I have seen happen during events over the years because vendors might have been control freaks, just like me. Don’t get me wrong being a Type A personality has it’s definite upsides. However, this is about trying to find a happy medium. What do we do? Is there any hope for us? Well, if anyone can solve an issue… it’s a control freak, Right?
Maybe it is time to start reflecting on our ‘Type B’ counterparts. What do they have that we don’t? Type B personalities tend to be laid back, relaxed, and flexible. They are the fun person at all the parties. Qualities we, Type A’s, so desperately wish to obtain. Is it possible for me? Can we flip the switch? I mean, we want to be the fun person at the party, too! Alas, after some digging, through really fun psychology studies, it seems that changing a Type A personality to Type B is just simply, not that simple.
Maybe it is time to think ‘outside the control box’ on this. What can a control freak gain by tweaking – ever so slightly – our domineering ways. Here are some suggestions I came up with for event professionals to control the CF inside them.
1- Swallow your pride.
If you made a mistake, admit it and fix it! If you realize you are in over your head. Ask for help. Events happen by multiple vendors coming together. Ask a vendor for help!
2- Embrace the chaos
Let’s not sugar coat this… events are stressful! There is no way to avoid it, so you need to ride the wave. When I started in the event industry (too long ago to mention), I would have serious anxiety before, during, and after every event. It took many crazy events and a really good boss for me to finally learn - “I can’t control the chaos”. However, what you can control is yourself and how you react. If you seem calm in a stressful situation it immediately calms down the client and all around.
3- Ask for help
It is okay if you reach out and lean on a vendor or coworker every once in a while. You might gain more than you lose giving up some control. They might have a new idea or perspective you have not thought of. They might have the solution that was eluding you.
4- Perfect is not an option
Try as you might your event will not be perfect. It might be extremely close, but perfection is not an option. Believe it or not, your client does not expect it either. They just want you to think they do to keep you on your toes. So, prepare yourself ahead of time and don’t beat yourself up when something goes awry. Fix it and move on. Continuing to agonize over it will only ensure that more mistakes are going to happen.
5- Smile and have fun
You got into the event industry for a reason. Showing your team how much fun you’re having makes them relax and enjoy it. A happy team = a successful event! Take a minute to reflect on a success and pat you and your team on the back. You did it!
Now that I have shared my thoughts, it’s time for me to practice what I preach.